Do you seem to be finding yourself in one bad relationship after another? Do you seem to be attracted to the ‘bad boy’ type rather than someone who is safe, reliable, and someone you can depend on? You probably have the AWR mentality and it can be a real bummer and ruin your life.
Members of your club go from one bad guy to the next one who is equally bad or worse. You feed on rejection and the more they hurt you, the more you hang on. You find the walking wounded attractive and you think you can save them. Love can conquer all, you say, and you rush in where angels fear to tread. Remember these words. When we do not get what we need, we take what we want. Somewhere there is a hole in your soul and you are trying to fill it up with these losers. It’s time to look inward and ask yourself what is truly lacking in your mind and spirit.
Compassion is your byword and you seem to be looking for someone to save, someone to nurse back to health. Naturally when the snake you nurse gets better, he turns around and bites you for spite. Then you look for another struggling serpent and the wheels keep turning. Another rejection, another sorrow, but love lives on and you are always looking for that special someone who will heal you as you have healed so many others. Where is that guy with a heart of gold to match your own?
Sometimes you even take beatings and brutality. You head for the hospital, thinking up yet another story to tell emergency personnel. They have heard it all before and seen it so often it is commonplace. Should the police be called, you do not want to rat out the man who broke your arm or slammed your head against the wall, or sodomized you. After all, a Good Samaritan looks out for the other guy.
Your parents, friends, family, and co workers advise you to stop hooking up with these deadbeats. They tell you that you deserve so much more than the humiliating treatment you keep accepting. You agree and say you are going to be independent and never need another man. Then you are off to the races after that new bad boy who tells you a sob story about how nobody ever understood him.
Are you a genuine Bad Boy Addict? Let’s see.
1. Are you always looking at the cocky, macho type guy who seems tough?
2. Do you want the guy who struts his stuff and exudes sexuality?
3. Will you have sex with a guy who obviously is using you for sex only?
4. Have friends told you that you let men abuse you?
5. Do you only want a man who is distant, independent, and very self confident?
6. Do you choose a man who will quickly physically fight to protect you?
7. When a relationship begins, do you think you can change your man?
8. Do you let a man hurt you physically?
9. Do you let a man criticize you, put you down, and still want him?
10. Do only players turn you on?
11. Are you always available for your loser lover?
12. Does your man always seem unavailable and unpredictable?
13. Do you want an edgy guy who is exciting and dramatic?
14. Do you let your man cheat on you , stand you up, and take it?
15. Has your ‘bad boy’ borrowed money from you and never paid it back?
Not good. If you picked 12 of the 15 you are likely AWR and you just are not attracted to nice, stable, decent men. Without the drama, the rejection, and the gaming, it just does not get you excited. You know you are going to be hurt, used, and abused, but you keep on wanting those bad boys who are nothing but trouble.
More blogs to come on this ‘issue’. If you have a story to tell about the bad boy who brought you down, e mail me with your tale of woe.
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