If you are a woman who always seems to end up on the wrong side of the stick, if your significant other gets the gold but you keep getting the shaft WAA has an opening for you. The more you get hurt, rejected , and abused, the more you hold your head up and hang on to your heart of gold. After all, you are the victim here. People are always using you and taking advantage of your caring and compassion nature. You pick up the strays, the walking wounded, the sorrowful and try to make them better. When they recover, they hurl insults at you and tell you that your are a smotherer and all you do is bitch and complain and nag. What happened to gratitude? If you are a WAA, you are not going to get much, if any.
You let a lot of abuse come your way, storing the incidents up in your mind, each one remembered. You grit your teeth and take it and take it and take it. Then suddenly you rise up and start screaming that you aren’t going to take it anymore. That’s when the people you have sheltered and protected throw you under the bus. After all, if you can’t suck it up, what good are you?
You keep looking for love, waiting for that special person who will make you feel like a million dollars and shower you with attention and tenderness. But you seem to find your treasures in the garbage dump because they always seem to end up like trash in the end. When you are critiziced, screamed at, slapped around, knocked against the wall, and crapped on, you sigh and ask yourself, ‘Is this the price I pay for love?’
You bet, because you have become addicted to abuse. It probably started a long time ago when you were little. You may have seen your mother used and abused and even though you vowed that this would never happen to you, here you are. You said you would never allow yourself to be bruised, battered, or berated but here you are, once more the victim with the heart of gold.
Are you a bona fide member of WAA? Let’s see.
1. Do you need love so badly you will gladly suffer for it?
2. Does your knight in shining armor always turn out to be a toad?
3. Are you the one who is always giving and never receiving?
4. Do you threaten to leave but always back down?
5. Have you had to seek medical care due to being abused?
6. Are men or a man your downfall?
7. Are you overly possessive and suspicious of your man?
8. Have you openly said you think your man is cheating, yet you stay?
9. Are you outspoken and tell it like it is?
10. Have you always been a romantic who wants tokens of love?
11. Are birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays very sentimental for you?
12. Are you always looking and flirting just a bit yourself?
13. Have you always wanted a storybook romance?
14. Do people naturally tell you their troubles and confide in you?
15. Does your compassion for people cause you to misjudge people?
If you have answered ‘yes’ to at least 10 of these questions you are a lifetime member of WAA. A crown of thorns seems to surround your heart and you are usually disappointed and hurt by the man you love so desperately. You keep saying you are going to make it on your own and don’t need a man. Yet, when nature calls and you feel that pull, off you go for another trip down misery lane.
You are a wonderful, loving woman and you deserve more than you have ever received. You have to learn to lead with your brain and not with your heart, at least some of the time. Since so many of you have written me about this topic, more blogs will follow. The holidays can be very hard for you because of feelings of regret, opportunities missed, and a hole in your soul because the love you need always seems just out of your reach.
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