Just wanted to let you know that this series of dealing with bosses, leaders is bringing out a huge amount of comment from all of you. Your e mails are telling me that you would like to do some pretty damaging things to your boss—or worse. There are many more boss/leader types to be discussed and suggestions as to how you can handle your feelings about this. Keep logging on.
The person you work for and the person who leads you has a profound effect on your life. If you like, admire, respect and get along with the boss, you have a good attitude about going to work, putting forth the extra effort, and getting the job done. When you arrive on the job you are good to go. When you leave, you are satisfied and ready to go home and live your other life. There is a smooth transition when you head home. You may be tired but you are OK.
On the other hand if you hate your boss, think he or she is a total asshole, you want to get back and rebel in subversive manners. Lots of you have already sent suggestions of how you have worked against your boss to make your point. You know that the boss has the CONTROL and you are in a position to have to at least appear to be going along with the program. You are angry when you go in to work and fume while you are there. You want every break you can get, and look for opportunities to sluff off if you can. But you know you have to be sly because it is no longer easy to change jobs and get needed insurance benefit coverage. So you are stuck and stuck people tend to get mean and vindictive. There’s nothing you would rather see that your boss fall flat and get fired. You are delighted when your hours on the job are over so you can now live your ‘real life’. You have to find a way to ‘decompress’ as you are heading home and many times can’t wait for that first beer to smooth things out.
Many of you think there are truly evil bosses who should be eliminated. You feel they are exploiting you and all you are is a robot, going through the motions. And you are hesitant to discuss your feelings with your co workers because they might rat on you and get you fired. And you know there is always that ‘mole’ running around, trying to get you to make negative comments which can quickly get reported. It’s like your job is an ‘ulcer’ in itself. Your resume is out there but nobody is hiring. When soebody else gets a break and leaves, you are sad to be left behind. It can eat at you, cause you to drink more, eat more, and fight with your spouse and family because they are easy targets. When you are on the job, you are there is body only because your escape is to let your mind take you away. That’s why so many people with access to computers at work use them for personal desires. That’s why people use sick leave as much as they can and come late to work. That’s why they have ‘accidents’ on the job and learn a lot about Workman’s Comp and Unemployment insurance.
We all know that leaders/bosses are not going to change. They got where they are by doing what they do naturally, which is mostly screwing you over. That’s what you all are telling me and your opinions are very, very strong.
I will keep rolling along because there are many more miserable bosses besides Bossy, Ruthless, Detailed, and the Cocky Show Off. Keep sending me your stories and I will use them to help my descriptions. Tell me when you think I am right on target and when you think I missed the mark. I’m on your side.
Remember, keep those donations coming as it helps keep my fingers loose on the computer. Thanks. Sharon